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Lend me your hope

Lend me your hope

When mine is all gone.

Hold my hand until

The fear has passed.

Share my pain

As you share my joy.

Do not judge me

But listen at ease.

Bring me faith

And light for the future.

Allow me to root out the past.

As I live in the present.

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Giving Love

Unfortunately, most of the time when it comes to people, it’s never just “give” or just “do.” It’s usually, “What am I going to get back?” We’re always thinking about what we’re going to get in return.Doing something agenda-free is very difficult for us. If we don’t get exactly what we gave in return, we at least want some kind of acknowledgment. That’s also conditional, and the benefit is temporary, negligible.


The only thing we should want in return is our own satisfaction, our own fulfillment. That is it period. Meaning, if you are in a relationship, just give and don’t be concerned what you will get in return. When we give with our whole heart, the giving returns to us in spades. It doesn’t make a difference if the returns come from that person or from someone else. What we should be focusing on is the real exchange: that with the Light of the Creator.If we want to be a vessel for the Light, we have to act like the Light. One way to do this is by giving unconditionally. Often we want to give conditionally, but we want people to give to us unconditionally. The universe just doesn’t work that way. If you are conditional, then you will end up with people in your life who are conditional.

If we are always looking for what we will get in return, we will be building a home for chaos. If you want to build a place for Love and Light to shine, then give and let go. Release your desire of what you could get back.


Have no expectation.

We have to find the strength to do one-way sharing. Obviously, we cannot continually give to someone who does nothing in return. There is time when those people in our lives we have to let go of. No matter how much you care for them. You cannot continue to be the person for them to learn what they need to learn on this journey. But in the normal course, open your heart and give to others without expecting a return. If it comes back from those people, that’s great.If is does not that’s okay too.We all have agendas, and we have gone through a lifetime of training to conceal them. But by doing so, we’re creating a mask that we want people to see instead of allowing them to see who we really are. Some people have built a turtle shell around themselves; some have built a thin layer; but it’s hard to connect to one another through these barriers.

We have to share from the deeper, uncovered, true essence of self, be it a friendship, or relationship. We must feel safe in this sharing with those we care for otherwise we feel cut off, disconnected from what is most important, Love.

This is what this week should be all about, being real — about your desires, your opinions, your garbage, and your gifts. It’s not an easy task, but it’s vital to your process of wiping the slate clean. If you have an expectation of someone in your life right now, I encourage you to do some deep thinking and ask yourself, is my expectation going to bring me closer to Love? Or as in a lot of cases is it going to create, tension, discord and pain to yourself and another when that person fails to do what I expect them to do.

It is not wrong to have certain expectations from others, it is however wrong to keep a score card, a list, of all that you have done for someone. I have seen this far to many times in life where one person is counting and keeping a total on what is owed to them in a relationship. Love is not about payment, it is about doing for the people in your life that are important to you. It is not about what you have done. Love is about Loving. Yes it really is that simple.

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