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Giving Love

August 22nd, 2010 |

Unfortunately, most of the time when it comes to people, it’s never just “give” or just “do.” It’s usually, “What am I going to get back?” We’re always thinking about what we’re going to get in return.Doing something agenda-free is very difficult for us. If we don’t get exactly what we gave in return, we at least want some kind of acknowledgment. That’s also conditional, and the benefit is temporary, negligible.

The only thing we should want in return is our own satisfaction, our own fulfillment. That is it period. Meaning, if you are in a relationship, just give and don’t be concerned what you will get in return. When we give with our whole heart, the giving returns to us in spades. It doesn’t make a difference if the returns come from that person or from someone else. What we should be focusing on is the real exchange: that with the Light of the Creator.If we want to be a vessel for the Light, we have to act like the Light. One way to do this is by giving unconditionally. Often we want to give conditionally, but we want people to give to us unconditionally. The universe just doesn’t work that way. If you are conditional, then you will end up with people in your life who are conditional.

If we are always looking for what we will get in return, we will be building a home for chaos. If you want to build a place for Love and Light to shine, then give and let go. Release your desire of what you could get back.

Have no expectation.

We have to find the strength to do one-way sharing. Obviously, we cannot continually give to someone who does nothing in return. There is time when those people in our lives we have to let go of. No matter how much you care for them. You cannot continue to be the person for them to learn what they need to learn on this journey. But in the normal course, open your heart and give to others without expecting a return. If it comes back from those people, that’s great.If is does not that’s okay too.We all have agendas, and we have gone through a lifetime of training to conceal them. But by doing so, we’re creating a mask that we want people to see instead of allowing them to see who we really are. Some people have built a turtle shell around themselves; some have built a thin layer; but it’s hard to connect to one another through these barriers.

We have to share from the deeper, uncovered, true essence of self, be it a friendship, or relationship. We must feel safe in this sharing with those we care for otherwise we feel cut off, disconnected from what is most important, Love.

This is what this week should be all about, being real — about your desires, your opinions, your garbage, and your gifts. It’s not an easy task, but it’s vital to your process of wiping the slate clean. If you have an expectation of someone in your life right now, I encourage you to do some deep thinking and ask yourself, is my expectation going to bring me closer to Love? Or as in a lot of cases is it going to create, tension, discord and pain to yourself and another when that person fails to do what I expect them to do.

It is not wrong to have certain expectations from others, it is however wrong to keep a score card, a list, of all that you have done for someone. I have seen this far to many times in life where one person is counting and keeping a total on what is owed to them in a relationship. Love is not about payment, it is about doing for the people in your life that are important to you. It is not about what you have done. Love is about Loving. Yes it really is that simple.

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Janine Shepherd “Never Tell Me Never”

July 9th, 2010 |

Author: Mary Kay

The word courage comes to mind as I write this, yet even courage seems too small a word to describe Janine Shepherd. There are but a handful of people in life we meet along the way that go beyond what the limits say we ought to go beyond. Modern medicine says it, scientists say it, even our religious teachings tell us man has limits. The people in Janine’s life surely must have told her this after her accident on that faithful day when the course of her life was altered forever.

“You are at the mercy of something incomprehensible, and there is nothing you can do about it”

The doctors, the ones who wanted to prepare her, the ones who loved and cared for her as she laid in that Intensive Care bed bruised, broken and nearly dead. Surely it was the kind thing to do for this young woman so full of promise of a future as an Olympic cross country skier. Dreams as shattered as the broken body laying prone with a only a tiny thread connecting her to this world.

“It only takes a split second and your life can assume an entirely and unforeseen dimension.”

What must have happened, what most thought would happen and what did happen follows in this woman’s unrelenting ability to not give in for surely at this point giving in would have been easier. The path of least resistance. The path a lot of people take. But not for Janine, not for this woman who had not yet lived her life and found her true path.
To say that divine intervention was involved is an understatement. There was a plan far beyond what anyone even Janine could know in that time of pain, suffering and learning to give it a go everyday.To reach out beyond what she was told was impossible to the possible.

“You will be forced to reassess everything, look at the world in an utterly different light and face the most difficult and challenging time of you life.”

But for that turning point that brought Janine back, all this would have been lost and gone. The force that brought her to the world to do these wonders stopped the hands of death and turned the forces back. And propelled Janine forward to seek what was her path in this life. Without that, maybe, the story of Janine would not have been complete or if that incident had gone as observers saw but for the inscrutable ways of providence, that would have been the end of this remarkable woman’s life that is helping to shape the landscape of others lives today.

Exactly twenty years after, when the same hands that bounced her back into life from the land of death she could not have known what was to come. In her story “Never Tell Me Never” which also was made into a movie, Janine takes us along in her journey from near death to a life filled with odds, the odds of not surviving her injuries, the odds of never being able to walk again, the odds of never having children, the odds that were all stacked not in Janine’s favor. The odds that she would remain in a wheelchair, living out her days on dreams that were lost on that road the day she was injured and left for dead.

Janine not only beat the odds she exceeded them.

In the end, I think it is truly a wonder of the human spirit that people, when thrown into pits of despair, can rise against all odds and create a life of hope and meaning as Janine did.she refused to accept the odds and the meaning of “can’t.” She is not only a remarkable woman she is an inspiration to millions who have read her books, watched her speak and know her soul is one of pure Love and Light that filters onto those lives she has touched.
Janine’s motivational speaking has lifted the curtain of fear, anxiety and ignorance which has obscured the power of the human spirit.The power of the human spirit is what makes us great, helps us beat the odds and gives us the force to push through seemingly impossible barriers.

This is truely one of the greatest books I’ve ever read! It shows that the human spirit can overcome any obstacle when the mind is made-up. If you want to read a book filled with beating the odds and changing your life, Never Tell Me Never is the book and should be required reading for anyone who has faced a life changing accident or event that has altered their life.

Janine has also written two follow up books that can be viewed on her site Dare to Fly and On My Own Two Feet.Janine is also available to speak and is an International Speaker that has been featured in many countries and ABC Talking Heads.

To read more or to purchase Janine Shepherds books visit her at
Janine Shepherd AM
Awakening human potential

visit www.janineshepherd.com

Tel + 61 (0) 418 480 621
Fax + 61 (0) 2 4862 3122
janine@janineshepherd.com

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